{"id":4489,"date":"2026-01-06T16:32:13","date_gmt":"2026-01-06T16:32:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/?p=4489"},"modified":"2026-01-06T17:32:23","modified_gmt":"2026-01-06T17:32:23","slug":"the-prize-mentality","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/index.php\/2026\/01\/06\/the-prize-mentality\/","title":{"rendered":"The &#8220;prize&#8221; mentality"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"4489\" class=\"elementor elementor-4489\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-467e917 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"467e917\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5de4aff elementor-widget elementor-widget-wp-widget-media_audio\" data-id=\"5de4aff\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"wp-widget-media_audio.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-4489-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/audio-11.mp3?_=1\" \/><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"http:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/audio-11.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/audio-11.mp3\">https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/audio-11.mp3<\/a><\/audio>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4b1b495 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"4b1b495\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-20474cc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"20474cc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>There have been raging debates on the internet about gender-related topics over the last couple of years. We have seen prominent discussions happening in our traditional news outlets, social and other visual digital medias as well as formal education platforms. Whether it has been debates about the necessity and\/ or extent of sex and sexual health education, the latest trad wife\/ baddie craze, women asking the US government to put tariffs on podcast mics or rants about women\u2019s or men\u2019s rights issues, the internet is ablaze with discussion. One that has particularly caught my attention and had me mulling over this blog piece is the concept of being \u201cthe prize\u201d in a romantic relationship. I would be surprised if your algorithm has not at any single point pushed out some or other video on this rhetoric in the last couple of years. Women and men are arguing like cats and dogs about who \u201cthe prize\u201d is in the heterosexual romantic relationship, who is the more valuable party, who is the reacher and settler in the dynamic&#8230; And, of course, some of concepts and observations that are being brought up are valid, according to me, but other takes are so hot and so wrong that I can see why dating in today\u2019s society has become so hard. \u00a0<\/p><p>I am no expert at social and romantic dynamics. I merely exist as an overthinking, curious and stubborn observer of human interactions. And, luckily, I managed to land a man who is just as eagle-eyed as me. We chat and debate often about many topics (finances, families, trauma, hip hop, Beyonce and Mikel Arteta\u2019s starting 11, amongst many things). A lot of times I have deep, entrenched views about the world, unwavering in my conviction\u2026however, through many of our discussions I have come to appreciate the male perspective, the middle-upper class perspective, the perspective of the <em>&#8216;connoisseur the culture&#8217;<\/em> on many issues. It has been incredibly refreshing &#8211; diving into the depths of each other\u2019s views, stress-testing our reasoning and challenging each other\u2019s assumptions and conclusions has been a great exercise in perspective-taking.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8ede34b e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"8ede34b\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ad8b9ff elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"ad8b9ff\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/IMG_0928-e1767719932493.jpg\" title=\"Screenshot\" alt=\"Screenshot\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-452fd15 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"452fd15\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-08c3db8 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"08c3db8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>&#8230;<\/p><p>So, I\u2019m sure you\u2019d like to know\u2026who\u2019s the prize in our marriage?<\/p><p>Men and women are valued differently. To deny that is to be ill-informed at best and disingenuous at worst. None of us live in a vacuum; we interact with the world, exist within cultural norms, beliefs and limitations. Thus, it is clear to see how we are living our personal lives for ourselves just as much as we are for communities we operate in proximity to. We either adopt or denounce the norms of the societies we live in and that can gain us favour or disdain in said societies. But now with the world more connected than ever before, we can and have adopted stances from far off geographies with societies that grapple with their own issues, own histories and own standards. That in and of itself is not a bad thing but a lot of context can get lost when people synthesize their opinions into 60-second videos for views, likes and virality. So, it does not surprise that common sense is often missing in the internet\u2019s gender wars.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f30652f e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"f30652f\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-24cd595 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"24cd595\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h5 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Self-esteem, standards and value<\/h5>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-4e51dc0 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"4e51dc0\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-888e0d6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"888e0d6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>When we talk about self-esteem and standards, it\u2019s worth reflecting on how we understand them as internal truths for ourselves and how we let them inform the relationships we chose to engage in. Absolute self-esteem speaks to how you see and carry yourself no matter the circumstance, this is the baseline belief in your worth, your competence, your value. Relative self-esteem, on the other hand, shows up in the expectations you hold, the access you grant, your discernment and the behaviours you tolerate or refuse from those in your life.<\/p>\n<p>Wanting better for yourself should be about aligning with your value system, a quiet confidence that says, \u201cI know my value, and therefore I am selective about who gets access and proximity to me.\u201d The \u201cprize mentality\u201d often goes&nbsp;<span style=\"text-align: var(--text-align); background-color: var(--ast-global-color-5); color: var(--ast-global-color-3); font-size: 1rem;\">above and beyond the values<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ff042f0 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"ff042f0\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8bae1fe e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"8bae1fe\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-deccedb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"deccedb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>&nbsp;and standards informing what you expect and will accept from others. It often skirts a desire for growth, reciprocity and mutual efforts, and rather seeks to dominate the dynamic or be crowned as exceptional \u2013 always the higher value, never the equal.<\/p>\n<p>Requiring respect, effort, consistency and presence can be good indicators of healthy self-esteem; demanding to be the prize on top of&nbsp;<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cd07fb7 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"cd07fb7\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-23ae94e elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"23ae94e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"535\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/25949-istockgetty-images-plusseng-kui-lim_source_file-1024x535.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-4506\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/25949-istockgetty-images-plusseng-kui-lim_source_file-1024x535.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/25949-istockgetty-images-plusseng-kui-lim_source_file-300x157.jpg 300w, https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/25949-istockgetty-images-plusseng-kui-lim_source_file-768x401.jpg 768w, https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/25949-istockgetty-images-plusseng-kui-lim_source_file.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6983480 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"6983480\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-994ddcb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"994ddcb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p style=\"font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400;\">all that, well\u2026look, if your self-esteem can\u2019t fathom not being \u201cpedestaled\u201d in a relationship, you need to question how much self-esteem you actually possess.<\/p><p style=\"font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 400;\">So, there is no prize???<\/p><p>Not exactly. Yes, I believe that neither you nor your partner are the prize in the relationship. I repeat, neither the woman nor the man is the prize in your romantic relationship. The prize is the relationship itself. &nbsp;<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ce62d18 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"ce62d18\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f7d9ea6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f7d9ea6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h5 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Quality love<\/h5>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-550e38f e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"550e38f\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3678ac2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3678ac2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Think about it\u2026 How many bad relationships are you currently aware of? Relationships involving neglect, inconsideration, infidelity, abuse and\/or unmitigated conflict. I\u2019m willing to bet that we can all name many examples of these terrible and toxic romantic dynamics that we\u2019ve seen in our homes, friendship circles, offices, tabloids and (recently) at a Coldplay concert! To contrast this, think about how many relationships there are in the above-mentioned spheres of your life that you admire and give praise to. I\u2019m sure there are a few wonderful connections that come to mind but again, I\u2019m happy to put money behind the guess that the bad apples outweigh the good for many people. Which leads me to believe that healthy, supportive, consistently praiseworthy relationships are incredibly hard to come by and therefore, hard to find ourselves in without some concerted efforts and commitment from both parties.<\/p><p>Good, healthy and quality relationships should be prized as somewhat of a rarity. And before you accuse me of relationship idolatry, I invite you to think about the good ingredients that make up a great romance and life with someone.<\/p><p>Forming a relationship and a love story that you can take pride in and being with someone who makes you feel seen, safe, understood in a way that challenges some of your longest-held insecurities is a universally-craved positive, corrective experience, irrespective of whether it continues onto marriage. A love that makes you feel good about repairing cracks after conflict, a love that makes you feel like you\u2019re meeting new parts of yourself &#8211; gently. A love that is patient, kind, that does not dishonour, that always protects and the rest of what 1 Corinthians 13:8 had to offer in defining the key tenets of love. That is the prize!<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3e06d49 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"3e06d49\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-86dae1f e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"86dae1f\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9fbfc84 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"9fbfc84\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"512\" height=\"549\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/female-male-gender-equality-scale-balance-object-732x549-thumbnail-732x549-1.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-4507\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/female-male-gender-equality-scale-balance-object-732x549-thumbnail-732x549-1.jpg 512w, https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/01\/female-male-gender-equality-scale-balance-object-732x549-thumbnail-732x549-1-280x300.jpg 280w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 512px) 100vw, 512px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1633775 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"1633775\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-044f27d elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"044f27d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>As a standalone person you can absolutely hold yourself at high esteem <strong>and<\/strong> be in a beautiful and fulfilling relationship without needing to be \u201cthe prize\u201d. I can hardly think many other non-contractual relationships where one party expects to be heralded and lauded by the other continuously. Persistent imbalances in power and\/or value (whether real or perceived) are the breeding ground for comparison and ego which can grow into conflict and resentment over time. I cannot imagine anyone wanting to uphold a social connection where one party consistently ranks higher than the other and power trips when they don\u2019t get their way. Not only is the prize mentality a lack of vulnerability, it is also a built-in exit strategy that will have you thinking \u201cuhh, if this all goes to sh!t, I\u2019m still hot in the streets, I don\u2019t need him\/her\u201d. This invariably erodes the level of investment people are willing to put into the relationship and stunts its growth.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-338d6b9 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"338d6b9\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-23d303b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"23d303b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h5 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Ball\u2019s in your court\u2026play on!<\/h5>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1e4e9da e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"1e4e9da\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-847e2f4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"847e2f4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Healthy and happy relationships are not monolithic though; we all desire different things because our psychology, needs and preferences are unique. So, I do not have a golden answer on how to correct\/address this mindset\u2026that\u2019s what self-work\/therapy, journalling and community are for. And in general, I try not to be prescriptive on this blog so there isn\u2019t a \u201cthis is how you fix this mindset it in your relationship\u201d angle to this post. Over and above that, I assume you are a curious and smart reader, so I have zero authority over you anyway. How you choose to use the information you\u2019ve just gained from the perspective of some newlywed lady you know from the internet will honestly be to up you and your desire to generate different outcomes in your romantic pursuits going forward. I merely wish to plant the seed in your mind that maybe the ideals and standards you currently insist on may not be serving your desired outcome. If you long for mutual respect, partnership and equal investment into your relationship, you\u2019re going to have to think differently about your position, contribution and demands in the romantic sphere.<\/p><p>While you may not be the prize, you still have a very good shot at finding someone who will adore \u00a0you deeply and praise you consistently and with enough courage, intention and desire you\u2019ll feel good about investing at equal levels, no ranking table required.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b420faf e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"b420faf\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-268df55 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"268df55\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><em>Thank you for taking the time to read or listen to this blog in full &#8211; leave a comment if you feel me \ud83d\ude42<\/em><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There have been raging debates on the internet about gender-related topics over the last couple of years. We have seen prominent discussions happening in our traditional news outlets, social and other visual digital medias as well as formal education platforms. 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