{"id":2181,"date":"2023-11-26T15:42:53","date_gmt":"2023-11-26T15:42:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/?p=2181"},"modified":"2025-01-10T21:00:33","modified_gmt":"2025-01-10T21:00:33","slug":"become-the-you-you-think-you-are","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/index.php\/2023\/11\/26\/become-the-you-you-think-you-are\/","title":{"rendered":"Become the you you think you are"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"2181\" class=\"elementor elementor-2181\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d58964a e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"d58964a\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-05868a1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-wp-widget-media_audio\" data-id=\"05868a1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"wp-widget-media_audio.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<audio class=\"wp-audio-shortcode\" id=\"audio-2181-1\" preload=\"none\" style=\"width: 100%;\" controls=\"controls\"><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/audio-2.mp3?_=1\" \/><source type=\"audio\/mpeg\" src=\"http:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/audio-2.mp3?_=1\" \/><a href=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/audio-2.mp3\">https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/audio-2.mp3<\/a><\/audio>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ef14de0 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"ef14de0\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fb2fe81 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"fb2fe81\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>I hold a philosophy about character and integrity that you may find quite interesting and should give you good insight into the person I am in my life right now. I\u2019m not perfect, so, there will always be room to think about this matter again, but for now, let\u2019s get into how we can align ourselves with our values.<\/p><p><span style=\"font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; text-align: var(--text-align); background-color: var(--ast-global-color-5); color: var(--ast-global-color-3);\">I think that in life, you exist in 3 different perspectives:<\/span><\/p><ol><li>You are the person people think you are \u2013 this is generally the least important perspective; not everyone\u2019s opinion holds weight and people are fickle (\u201cYOU #1\u201d)<\/li><li>You are the person you think you are \u2013 this is who we usually look to when describing ourselves to people, the characteristics and personality traits we use to tell our stories, our intentions and our views. This perspective is important; however, it\u2019s not always the full story (\u201cYOU #2\u201d)<\/li><li>You are the person you are as exhibited by your actions, your words and your behaviours \u2013 this is the portfolio of evidence you leave in every interaction you have with people, how you treat them, how you respond to them, how your presence adds\/detracts from the moments you share with others (\u201cYOU #3\u201d)<\/li><\/ol><p>#3 is who you really are when you\u2019re not curating a story about yourself.<\/p><p><span style=\"font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; text-align: var(--text-align); background-color: var(--ast-global-color-5); color: var(--ast-global-color-3);\">The work of becoming the person you think you are is the work of closing out the gap between YOU #2 and YOU #3; making sure that your portfolio of evidence aligns with the story of you that you tell yourself and others.<\/span><\/p><p>This is not some abstract, academic or \u201cfake deep\u201d idea\u2026<\/p><p>Think about how people never describe themselves as disloyal, rude, unreliable, pretentious or selfish\u2026and then think about how many people you\u2019ve walked away from describing with those exact words. No one readily gives away their shortcomings and character flaws directly, we all walk around singing our own praises; telling people how dependable and trustworthy we are, how much we honour our belief systems and how we\u2019re worth getting to know. Most people self-report as their highest and best self, while showing up with a myriad of blind spots, if not falsities altogether, in their actions, words and behaviours. You could very well be that person to someone too.<\/p><p>\u00a0<\/p><p>Fear not, I am not just here to make you feel like crap\u2026at least not entirely. Let\u2019s see if we can get your ideated self (YOU #2) and actualised self (YOU #3) to be the same person. To quote myself (from my now-deleted Twitter account):<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0c7f1dd e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"0c7f1dd\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-52c92fa elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"52c92fa\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/01235720-0980-43c8-b161-154a9dff050e.jpg\" title=\"01235720-0980-43c8-b161-154a9dff050e\" alt=\"01235720-0980-43c8-b161-154a9dff050e\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-57dfff4 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"57dfff4\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d3a9593 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d3a9593\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>To truly be your best self and love yourself, I believe that you have to acknowledge all the ways in which you\u2019re actually not the person you think you are and then think about how to become YOU #2.<\/p><p><strong>I &#8211; VALUES<\/strong><\/p><p>A useful place to start is to actually examine your value system. Ask yourself important questions about what matters most to you, what you believe in and what type of behaviours, practices and choices best align with your perception of self. You may need to borrow from lessons learnt from your parents, peers and wider communities here. The exercise of acknowledging and understanding your values will help you a lot in decision-making and discussions with others. However, it will not be a one-off. Instead, it will be a continuous investment into real-time improvement in how you initiate actions and respond to your environment. I could speak for days on the why\u2019s, how\u2019s and how to get back on the horse when you experience setbacks but instead, I\u2019ll offer you a cheat code.<\/p><p>The lovely people at <strong>The New Happy<\/strong> gave me permission to share the link to their Values Wheel document; where you will find a list of values under several categories to choose from. You\u2019ll get to decide on a list your Top 20, 10 and 5 values from the document. The idea behind this exercise is to help connect you with your values<em> \u201cbecause they have a meaningful impact on your well-being.\u201d<\/em><\/p><p><span style=\"font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; text-align: var(--text-align); background-color: var(--ast-global-color-5); color: var(--ast-global-color-3);\">Here\u2019s snippet of my Values Wheel:<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b6b3050 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"b6b3050\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-17a5466 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"17a5466\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"109\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/values-e1736542292363-768x109.png\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-2187\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/values-e1736542292363-768x109.png 768w, https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/values-e1736542292363-300x42.png 300w, https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/values-e1736542292363.png 883w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-fee6b50 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"fee6b50\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1c8997b e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"1c8997b\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9c25d3f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"9c25d3f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Link to download The New Happy Values Wheel document:\u00a0<\/p><p>You can also check out their Instagram page:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6422a70 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"6422a70\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-85e1e5f e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"85e1e5f\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-461e576 elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"461e576\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-button elementor-button-link elementor-size-sm\" href=\"http:\/\/www.thenewhappy.com\/values-wheel\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">The New Happy <\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b83fdeb e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-child\" data-id=\"b83fdeb\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2a0ef68 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"2a0ef68\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/instagram.com\/newhappyco\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image0.png\" title=\"image0\" alt=\"image0\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7b7b0dd e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"7b7b0dd\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dcbcdfc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"dcbcdfc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><em>Get curious with this\u2026and good luck!<\/em><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5a387dc e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"5a387dc\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0dea102 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0dea102\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>II &#8211; CHARACTER TRAITS<\/strong><\/p><p>After assessing and concluding on your values, you can move on to character-development. For me this has been an active and conscious task over at least 5 years \u2013 mainly through writing. Writing down what it is I think about myself or, better yet, how I would like to be described by those who know me is what has helped me in this process.\u00a0<\/p><p><span style=\"font-style: inherit; font-weight: inherit; text-align: var(--text-align); background-color: var(--ast-global-color-5); color: var(--ast-global-color-3);\">You can start small, a list of 5 adjectives that you would like to ascribe to your character and actively work on. One of my previous iterations (2020\/21) looked like this \u2013 I wanted to be:<\/span><\/p><ol><li>Reliable<\/li><li>Compassionate<\/li><li>High performing<\/li><li>Present<\/li><li>Energetic<\/li><\/ol><p>I encourage you to get interested in your character, to build a list of adjectives that appeal to your view of self and how you wish to be received. Don\u2019t be married to the outcome of the exercise, though (the actual \u201cbeing described or received in line with your list\u201d), the most important part of the exercise is the process of becoming and staying the person you say you are. So, commit to being \/ living out the adjectives more than anything else. Remember, I said people are fickle, so how they receive or describe you does not ultimately dictate your character.<\/p><p><strong>III &#8211; COMMUNITY<\/strong><\/p><p>So\u2026 I know the statement \u201cpeople are fickle\u201d comes off dismissive and cold \u2013 that\u2019s somewhat intentional. I know that no one person is an island; we are all part of communities and systems that involve interacting with people, building connections and creating reputations for ourselves. People matter to us. What I do want to point out, though, is that not everybody matters to you to the same extent, therefore, not everybody\u2019s perceptions and opinions should form part of your self-evaluation process. We all have certain friends, family members, colleagues and other persons we look at with more favour than others. This is often as result of shared values, common backgrounds, admiration of their mindset and value system or other criteria that make you value their words and views above anyone else\u2019s.<\/p><p>At the core of this, I believe we all need to be more discerning when it comes to taking feedback from people \u2013 generally speaking, those people should be the ones who like\/ love you, who are of good character and who you trust. Obviously, opinions will come from whence<sup>1<\/sup> they come, and these days you really can\u2019t do anything about who opines when.\u00a0 Your duty to self is to be selective about whose opinions count or inform your self-perception.<\/p><p><em><sup>1<\/sup><\/em><em> I know the phrase \u201cfrom whence\u201d is logically redundant, the sentence sounds weird any other way.<\/em><\/p><p>The beautiful thing about being observed by those who love\/like us, is that they can help bring attention our blind spots, support us while we\u2019re not 100% there and sometimes even help us see the beautiful things we don\u2019t appreciate about ourselves.\u00a0<\/p><p><strong>IV &#8211; ACTIONS and THE MAINTENANCE PLAN<\/strong><\/p><p>The desired outcome from the above steps is to ensure that:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3e9ad6e e-con-full e-flex e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"3e9ad6e\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d07dbd5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"d07dbd5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/Screenshot-2023-11-26-185250.png\" title=\"Screenshot 2023-11-26 185250\" alt=\"Screenshot 2023-11-26 185250\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5baadad e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"5baadad\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-0dfb7fd elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"0dfb7fd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>So, every decision you make, action you take, and word you say should be closely aligned with your values and your character traits once you have decided what those are. In this way you become a lot more intentional with what you are involved in and a lot more accountable to yourself and others. And when things go wrong, as they often do, you are at least better positioned to assess your faults with a lot more knowledge about self, because you are able to look at the actions \/ words and interrogate how they align with what you ought to be per your own defined values and traits. You\u2019ll also be able to look at other factors with more clarity (such as your tone and delivery in speaking to people, your transparency in the situation, the fairness of your actions\/reactions and other behaviour, the environment itself etc)<\/p><p>Lastly, you will not get it right 100% of the time, there will be a number of setbacks or disappointments in how you approached an argument, or how you spoke about a friend in their absence, how you flirted someone who was not your partner or how you spent 2 hours in the company of someone you actually really dislike etc. Important things to remember when evaluating yourself or others:<\/p><ol><li>You have to be decisive about which values continue to mean something to you over time; they are never cast in stone; in the same way you a person evolve over the years, the things that matter to you evolve too.<\/li><li>Do not abandon yourself in pursuit of making sure that people stay, or that they like you, or speak well about you. People pleasing is a good way to erode your sense of self and disconnect with your value system and personal character. So, hold on to you.<\/li><li><em>Practice makes improvement. <\/em>You will stretch yourself and grow once you think about things this way, life will give you plenty of opportunities to be your highest and best self; and many other opportunities to remedy situations where you fall off the horse.<\/li><li>Give yourself grace.<\/li><\/ol>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ce6f706 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"ce6f706\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5559d0b e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"5559d0b\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b9e361b elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"b9e361b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" width=\"342\" height=\"353\" src=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image01.png\" class=\"attachment-medium_large size-medium_large wp-image-2208\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image01.png 342w, https:\/\/yoursilencewillnotsaveyou.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/11\/image01-291x300.png 291w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 342px) 100vw, 342px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6879e13 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"6879e13\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>V \u2013 ON A PERSONAL NOTE<\/strong><\/p><p>Values, integrity and accountability became exceptionally important topics to me in my mid 20s after walking away from a very disorienting (to say the very least) romantic relationship. At one point, the gap between who I thought I was and what my actions, behaviours and choices said about me seemed insurmountable. Piecing back my self-esteem and regaining a strong sense of self required a lot of troubleshooting and faith from me; so, I do not share the suggestions above lightly. I literally lived that shit.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-71f5fea e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"71f5fea\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-951255f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"951255f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>_ _<\/p><p>Thank you for taking this time to read\/ listen to the blog. See you on December 1<sup>st<\/sup>, 2023! \u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I hold a philosophy about character and integrity that you may find quite interesting and should give you good insight into the person I am in my life right now. 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